How To Get Past Hatred & Anger? Try This Technique!

The Buddha said “Holding anger is like grasping a burning coal, the one to get hurt is you.” In these times of hatred and anger, this quote from more than 2500 years is still relevant. And why won’t it be? It’s an Universal Truth…

If you’ve read my previous posts, you’ll see that most of them are based on my personal experience. I don’t write unless the processes and techniques have really helped me. Hence, you can at least trust me a little and try this process I’m offering.

It’s simple (and easy) but powerful enough to shower you with hope & joy.

I call this The Forgiveness Meditation Technique.

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Realize That People Make Mistakes

Here’s the first thing you can do: Realize That People Make Mistakes.

Unfortunately, in our busy lives we forget that To Err is Human. Everyone makes mistake(s)! We cannot deny that. Tell me one person who hasn’t done any mistake? I bet you won’t. Heck, we make countless mistakes everyday in our lives.

And it’s so common that when a person doesn’t make one, or let’s say make very little ones, they either look at him/her with jealously, or outright think of them a creep.

People are biased too. When they make mistake they feel they should be pardoned, but when it’s the opposite, like when someone else makes the mistake, they’ll look at him/her with anger or in some cases hatred.

So, the simplest way to counter this is to ACCEPT. Accept that people make mistake, and it’s as common as grass growing on a field.

Ask Yourself This One Question

What would you have done if the person was you? Think deeply, not something shallow like: “I wouldn’t have done anything like that!” You just don’t know what people can become. Especially when they are desperate for these four things: Food, Money, Love, Sex.

If you’re trying to do it for the first time, you might have some trouble observing. It’s okay! Don’t worry about it, just observe and look at yourself as the third person.

Since this is a question to yourself, you can write your experience in the comment…

Here’s my experience: I saw a dog snatch food from a kid(human). My impulsive thoughts urged me to forcefully take the food and hand it over to the kid, but I waited and asked questions about the situation…

What would I do if I was as hungry as the dog?
As I asked this single question, countless thoughts came and went. And finally I got the answer in just one word: Survival!

To keep balance in society it’s extremely important to be a 50% emotional & 50% logical. When society leans toward a particular process, it creates imbalance. In my case if I was too emotional, I would have just thought about the kid and not the dog. As a logical person I would have been unemotional and just thought “survival of the fittest.”

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Has Anger/Hatred Helped You?

Did being angry at the person did anything positive to you? Anger, if you channel the energy into positive direction can be life-changing. Hatred, on the other hand is disastrous! Hatred literally eats-up your brain and makes you mentally weak.

I’ve seen people change their lives completely when they were insanely angry at themselves or a situation. Take David Goggins for example. Sir is the classical example of what anger can do when channeled towards a positive direction.

He was too angry at himself and through utter dedication & hard work, changed himself to the man he is still proud of.

If you’ve read the “About Me” page of this website, you’ll see how I’ve indirectly written about anger changing my life…

So, think about this a little deeply.

Has Anger/Hatred helped you?

The Forgiveness Manifestation Technique

• Think of the things that person have done to you.
• Try to see the emotions without applying any thought. You already have enough anger towards that person, there’s no need of anything extra…
• Just observe your thoughts that arise. It can be intense, painful, anger, hatred. You can even cry because you feel victimized.
• With time, you’ll see that the thoughts are slowly dissipating. Provided you’re not just generating more hatred or anger towards that person or situation.
• As you keep on practicing, one day the negative thoughts will completely disappear…
• That’s it!

As I briefly mentioned before, this technique might seem vague & also easy to do. Once you try then the magic happens!

So, try it and do tell me what did you experience. I genuinely love reading people’s success stories.

Until then…

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